NLP and Dating

Why You Should Stop Tracing Energy Balls on People’s Faces

If you've ever found yourself watching a YouTube video titled “How to Seduce Anyone with NLP Techniques”, and suddenly someone’s talking about asking women what color their internal energy is... congrats. You’ve entered the bizarre world of pickup artist “psychology.”

Let’s make one thing clear: NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) is a real communication model. But when it’s used in dating like some kind of emotional spellcasting, it becomes less “science” and more “please stop doing that.”

This post is for anyone aged 18–35 who’s had it with weird dating tricks—and just wants to know how to make a real connection without becoming a hypnotist.

🎭 1. Speak Human, Not Hypnotist

You don’t need to speak in a slow, spellbinding voice to get someone’s attention.

❌ “You’re… starting… to feel… drawn… to me…”

That doesn’t sound sexy—it sounds like your Bluetooth connection is cutting out.

✅ Instead, ask fun, curiosity-piquing questions like:

“What’s something weird you’re really into that would surprise people?”

Being genuinely interested works better than any memorized script.

🪞 2. Mirror, Don’t Mime

Mirroring someone’s body language can create subconscious connection. But if she leans her head, and you mirror her exact posture like a robot glitching during yoga, you’re not building rapport—you’re auditioning for a mime troupe.

✔ Do: Match her energy.✖ Don’t: Mimic every breath she takes like you’re syncing up to summon a spirit.

🌈 3. Create Emotional Moments, Not Performances

One sketchy dating technique advises you to trace invisible energy lines from her waist to her face while whispering about “internal energy colors.”

Stop.

This is a date, not a chakra realignment.

A better move?

“What’s a moment in your life that made you feel totally free?”

Now you’re building something real—connection based on emotion and memory, not finger-painting in the air.

💬 4. Consent Is Sexy, Always

Asking for consent isn’t “ruining the moment”—it’s being respectful. And that’s hot.

Try this:

“I’d love to kiss you. Would that be okay?”

Smooth. Honest. Attractive. No energy tracing or color-guessing required.

🧲 5. Anchoring Feelings? Sure—But Like a Normal Person

Anchoring is when a feeling becomes tied to a sensory trigger. (Like how the smell of sunscreen brings back summer memories.)

But don’t say:

“Let’s put all those good feelings into this sugar packet so you can carry them around.”

She’s not going to carry that. She’s going to carry the memory of your weirdness.

If she feels great around you naturally—because you’re funny, thoughtful, and engaged—she’ll want more of that (aka more of you). That’s the real anchoring.

🔚 Final Thought: Be Less Weird. Be More Real.

You don’t need to hypnotize anyone. You don’t need energy balls. You don’t need sugar-packet talismans.

You need presence. Curiosity. A little self-awareness.

Ask real questions. Make her laugh. Don’t try to hack her brain—just make her feel seen.

And if in doubt?

“Hey, I think you’re cool. Want to grab tacos sometime?”

That’s how you anchor attraction.

💬 Share Your Thoughts!

Had a cringey date where someone tried to NLP you into submission? Or a real connection moment you’ll never forget? Drop it in the comments below—we want to hear it!